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Kurtz
12-23-2007, 02:36 PM
Long Deployments Take A Toll On Marriages

When April Shacklee wished her husband farewell last year, she was prepared to be separated from him for a year. However, his deployment to Iraq ended up lasting 15 months.

The so-called troop surge in Iraq required the Pentagon to add three months to the tour of duty for nearly everyone serving there. Of the 160,000 American troops in Iraq, 135,000 are on 15-month tours.

While an extra three months may not seem like much to a civilian, to the soldier witnessing the horrors of war in Iraq, or to the newly married wife sitting at home, the extra months can be unbearable. As Shacklee attests, "That is 90 days tacked on to 365 — it is interminable, it was so, so long, so long." Shacklee was finally reunited with her husband Michael at Fort Hood, Texas, this week.

But for many families, the extended tours are more than just difficult. A Pentagon study obtained by NPR connects longer deployments to higher rates of divorce. A team of Army psychologists and counselors traveled to Iraq this fall and spoke to 2,300 soldiers. They found that a third of privates and corporals, and a quarter of sergeants, intended to divorce their spouses at the end of their 15-month tour. The study also reportedly finds an increase in suicides.

The military knows these extended commitments are unsustainable. Col. Larry Phelps, of the First Cavalry, admits, "There is no way to tell you it doesn't have an impact on the soldiers."

The problem is aggravated by the fact that many of these soldiers are called to return to Iraq for extended tours, multiple times. There are simply not enough troops to allow soldiers to take time off to recover.

Army Vice Chief of Staff Gen. Richard Cody acknowledges the situation. "We know that we need to get back to 12 months as fast as we can."

But the military expects extended tours to last at least through the summer.
Military Divorce (http://abcnews.go.com/WN/story?id=4043786)

Family values, huh? :roll

Saguaro
12-23-2007, 03:28 PM
This so sad

Wabash
12-23-2007, 08:16 PM
Very sad. But then, how many of these are just young adults and weren't ready for marriage in the first place?
I'd like to see some stats on that!

Oceanbreeze
12-23-2007, 08:40 PM
Very sad. But then, how many of these are just young adults and weren't ready for marriage in the first place?
I'd like to see some stats on that!

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Today's military wives are a bunch of whiney cry babies. They need to have a nice chat with a WWII or Vietnam military wife to know how cushy we have it.
We are lucky to have the technology we have today compared to just 10 years ago. :soapbox We got married at 22 and have been married 17 years and he's been gone 4 of those years. Some have it worse, some have it better, I think we're a happy medium for deployments.


1990: Married; 3 months field time.
1991: Airborne, Ranger School, 5 months.
1992: Field time 3 months
1993: Field time 5 months
1994: Somalia 6 months; Haiti; 4 months
1995: Field time: 3 months 1st child born.
1996: Law School;worked during the summer
1997: Law School;worked during the summers
1998: Law School:worked during the summers: 2 kid born
1999: Kids were 1 and 3, 3 month class out of state
2000-2002: Worked horrendous hours 5am-7pm
2001: Kids were 3 and 5: 3 month class out of state
2002: JAG advanced course.
2003-2004: Kids were 5 and 7: 3 month class out of state: Worked horrendous hours 4:30am-7pm.
2005-2006: Kids were 7 and 9; Iraq 12 months
2007: Home
2008-2010: 6 months on, 6 months off to Kuwait.

Wabash
12-23-2007, 09:34 PM
I'd say the problem with many, not all military wives, is that they are spoiled and undisciplined...some of them should go thru boot camp first and learn sacrifice....

Oceanbreeze
12-23-2007, 09:42 PM
I'd say the problem with many, not all military wives, is that they are spoiled and undisciplined...some of them should go thru boot camp first and learn sacrifice....

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Damn straight. Alot of them let everything go to hell during deployments, including their kids. :soapbox