Zanoog
07-08-2007, 08:12 AM
Master Manipulators
The need to use manipulation is often founded on the need to be better -better liked, better off, to have a better home and better children. But the key to being successful in manipulating a situation is in not making those you have 'used' feel worse about themselves. Make others feel worthy and you will have succeeded in your task - and maintained your popularity.
But don't forget that, just because you look 'better', it doesn't actually mean you are a better person. If you don't keep your achievements in honest perspective, you'll develop a superior sense of your own cleverness that will, eventually, become clear to those around you. You'll end up having to strive even harder at manipulating people and situations in order to maintain your superior position - and end up losing the goodwill that's so necessary for your tactics to succeed.
Also, ask yourself what the need for such wiliness says about your life and your relationships with those around you. Are you scared of creating jealousy or upsetting people? In which case you need to look at your own confidence levels and assertiveness.
It can be greatly beneficial to use subtle manipulation in genuinely competitive situations. But the very best relationships are those in which you can dare to be yourself and dispense with such delusory tactics.
http://www.fortunecity.com/emachines/e11/86/liar.html
Interesting site on liars and manipulators.
I'm sure we've all experienced this type of person at one time or another.
My oldest sister is a 'born liar'. Tells a lie when it would actually be easier to tell the truth! Go figure.
The need to use manipulation is often founded on the need to be better -better liked, better off, to have a better home and better children. But the key to being successful in manipulating a situation is in not making those you have 'used' feel worse about themselves. Make others feel worthy and you will have succeeded in your task - and maintained your popularity.
But don't forget that, just because you look 'better', it doesn't actually mean you are a better person. If you don't keep your achievements in honest perspective, you'll develop a superior sense of your own cleverness that will, eventually, become clear to those around you. You'll end up having to strive even harder at manipulating people and situations in order to maintain your superior position - and end up losing the goodwill that's so necessary for your tactics to succeed.
Also, ask yourself what the need for such wiliness says about your life and your relationships with those around you. Are you scared of creating jealousy or upsetting people? In which case you need to look at your own confidence levels and assertiveness.
It can be greatly beneficial to use subtle manipulation in genuinely competitive situations. But the very best relationships are those in which you can dare to be yourself and dispense with such delusory tactics.
http://www.fortunecity.com/emachines/e11/86/liar.html
Interesting site on liars and manipulators.
I'm sure we've all experienced this type of person at one time or another.
My oldest sister is a 'born liar'. Tells a lie when it would actually be easier to tell the truth! Go figure.